Making changes and trying to always do my best to be positive and live a healthier, happier life.
I came across some great tips in the internet and some are just my life experience. Let's put them to good use and live a happier life, we deserve it.
See the positive side, the potential, and make an effort.” ~Dalai Lama
Negative thoughts drain you of energy and keep you from being in the present moment. The more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger they become. I like the imagery of a small ball rolling along the ground, and as it rolls, it becomes bigger and faster.
That’s what one small negative thought can turn into: a huge, speeding ball of ugliness. On the contrary, a small positive thought can have the same effect blossoming into a beautiful outcome.
When we start to have negative thoughts, it’s hard to stop them. And it’s much easier said than done to shift your focus to positive thoughts.But it’s the only way, especially if you want to avoid going down a path that is painful and unnecessary.
Here are ten things I did to help overcome my negative thoughts that you can also try:
1. Meditate or do yoga.
It took my focus away from my thoughts and brought my attention to my breath. Yoga is also very relaxing which helped ease my mind. Yoga helped me stay present to my experience so instead of jumping to what could happen, it brought me back to the now—the only moment, the most important moment.
2. Smile.
I didn’t do much of this during the week, specially because I have to go to work and leave my baby, so I literally had to bring myself in front of a mirror and force myself to smile. It really does help change your mood and relieve stress. I also felt lighter because it takes fewer muscles to smile than to frown.
3. Surround yourself with positive people.
I called a friend who I knew could give me constructive, yet loving feedback. When you’re stuck in a negative spiral, talk to people who can put things into perspective and won’t feed your negative thinking.
4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.
For example, instead of thinking, “We are going to have a hard time adjusting to our living situation,” think, “We will face some challenges in our living situation, but we will come up with solutions that we will both be happy with.”
5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility.
The way I was thinking and acting, you would think I was stuck. Even if our living situation becomes unbearable, there is always a way out. I will always have the choice to make change happen, if need be.
6. Help someone.
Take the focus away from you and do something nice for another person.
7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward.
It’s easy to dwell on your mistakes.The only thing you can do now is learn from my mistakes and move forward.
8. Meditate.
I do not understand the bible too much, but when I sit and read a verse and meditate on the word and my life I find that this always makes me feel better . It's a way to talk about my problems, concerns with god and this believe it or not gives me a sense of peace and some how provides an amazing stress relief.
9. List five things that you are grateful for right now.
Being grateful helps appreciate what you already have. Here’s my list: My health, my children, my boyfriend, and for my dad being cured from cancer, my family.
10. It's your choice to choose.
Choosing joy intentionally each day, even when the nitty gritty threatens to over take me, once I realize that things that felt big probably aren't, I learned that the small moments are the ones I'll remember for a lifetime!
Happy positive thinking!
