How to mend/survive a broken heart!

This Post is dedicated to someone I hold close to my heart! I hope this helps.

With valentine's soon approaching and couples making plans, let us not forget those who are no longer in a relationship. Below are a few ideas of how to mend your broken heart.

Mend A Broken Heart!

People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way--at least initially. These suggestions may help you navigate the painfully troubled waters of a relationship that has ended and help you heal a broken heart.

Days 1 and 2
Step1 Breathe. All you can do is survive this first and difficult day. Take one day at a time. Give yourself permission to mourn. Call in sick at work, sleep all day, eat too much ice cream, sob.

Step2 Congratulate yourself for being human: It is only when you open yourself to love that your heart can break. Develop and repeat a helpful mantra to get you through the initial shock and pain, such as "This too shall pass" or "I will survive."

Step3 Reach out to a close friend or family member. It helps to share your thoughts with others. Watch a movie to distract yourself. Choose a comedy that has cheered you up in the past. Or watch a movie that's guaranteed to make you sob--it may surprise you how good that feels.

Month 1

Step1Week 1: Force yourself to go out even if you are feeling despondent. Take yourself out for a cup of coffee or go on a long walk. Express your emotions in a way that comes naturally. Write in a journal, paint, sculpt or play music. Do daily cardiovascular exercise--the endorphins will give your spirits an immediate lift. Resist the urge to call your ex. Instead, write a letter. Don't mail it. Go out of town for the weekend to distance yourself from the temptation to call your ex. Visit an old friend or go back home to your roots. A change of environment does wonders for the spirit. Put everything that reminds you of your ex in a box and seal it. Throw it away, donate it to charity or ask a friend to hold on to it indefinitely.

Step2Week 2: Surround yourself with friends. This may mean reaching out to people you fell out of touch with during the relationship. Make lists to help you regain your confidence and identity: a list of your friends, of things you like, of what you want to accomplish in the next decade. Spoil yourself: Get a new hairstyle, have a spa day or go shopping. Resist the urge to call your ex.

Step3Week 3: Assess the experience. Have you learned anything about yourself? Does the experience make you more empathetic to others who've suffered a hardship? Begin an activity that will fill your time, distract your mind and rebuild your confidence. Train for a marathon, take up yoga or learn a new language. Resist the urge to call your ex. Volunteer your time at a local homeless shelter, soup kitchen or tutoring center. It will take your mind off your own woes and keep your suffering in perspective.

Step4Week 4: Continue regular socializing and exercising. While socializing, though, make sure you don't depend on alcohol or drugs to dull the pain. Call your ex if you feel it would be helpful. Resist if you merely want to say hurtful things. Consider dating other people, but be wary of rebound relationships. Understand that you will need to experience and process sadness, anger, guilt and fear to fully heal. Burying or ignoring these emotions will thwart the healing process. Write, cry, share the feelings with friends.

Months 3 to 6
Step1 Force yourself to go on dates. You'll be surprised to discover that your heart can still flutter over someone. It's part of the healing process.

Step2 Consult a psychiatrist if you are experiencing symptoms of depression, such as lack of appetite, insomnia or too much sleeping, low self-esteem, and an inability to concentrate or carry out routine tasks. Ask a friend or physician to recommend one who is experienced in treating depression.

Step3 Remember that healing is a process that takes time. Expect waves of sadness, anger, guilt or fear even after you think you are over it. Give your heart time to heal.
One year and beyond

Step1 Compartmentalize the experience in your memory: "My heart was broken once. It really hurt and I'm glad it's over."

Step2 Reach out to your ex if you want to re-establish a friendship. Do not harbor secret ambitions of winning him or her back. You'll only set yourself up for another heartbreak.

Surviving A Broken Heart

If things are unraveling, you’re being avoided, made promises that are never kept or you’re feeling disappointed, chances are you have a broken heart. Go easy on yourself and remember you’re not the only one who is going through this. There are those who can help, and there are things you can do to help alleviate the pain of a broken heart.

Step1 First and foremost, be honest with yourself. Think back to when you felt good about yourself. Remind yourself there is a tomorrow and then promise this experience has been a learning lesson, and mean it.

Step2 Is he good for you? If you’re feeling blue then most likely the guy is not, or was not, good for you anyway. You are better off without him.

Step3 Chances are you are going to want to go back to her/him. Familiar territory, even if it’s bad, is easier than tackling the unknown. Try to stay away from her / him and avoid the places he/she normally goes.

Step4 If you are unable to stay away, explain to him he isn’t good for you. Tell your friends you wish to stay away from him and ask them to help you find new places to go.

Step5 Stay busy so you don’t dwell on what has happened. If you have time on your hands treat yourself to something you enjoy such as a movie, a trip to the museum or a shopping spree.

Step6 Remember to be good to yourself. This is important and you should do this everyday, but sometimes we punish ourselves because we feel we have failed. You haven’t failed, just moved on.

Step7 Spend time with positive people. Surround yourself with those who appreciate you. Remember you are important and you must live with yourself first. If you are not good to yourself, others will not treat you any better.

Note*
Don’t expect to get over a broken heart in only a few days. It takes time to feel better, but if you follow the steps you will be on your way to recovery very soon.

If this can help at least one person out there then that is good enough for me. I have been through a broken heart i have experienced the feeling, this is why I choose to share these tips with you!

xoxo
Griselle