Girlfriend Chat

The birds are chirping, the bees are buzzing, and the flowers are blooming. Spring is on its way and it’s time to get a jump start on finding your own spring fling. Not great at casual conversation? Just follow these helpful flirting tips and you could have your very own romantic somebody in no time!

Don’t take it too seriously
Flirting is a great way to get to know people, just don’t go into it expecting to find the love of your life. Have fun and even if you don’t find your perfect match, at least you can say you had a good time.

Look approachable
Sulking isn’t going to get you anywhere. Relax and smile a bit; show people that you are fun to be around. This will open you up to more conversations with more people.

Be body language literate
Actions speak louder than words. Look for signs of interest such as mirroring. Mirroring is when a person begins to “mirror” your actions; leaning in when you lean in and smiling when you smile. Also if the person is allowing you into their personal space, it is a good indication that they are interested.

Make eye contactConstant
eye contact with the person your interested in is key. Quick glances from across the room paired with a smile are obvious signs of attraction.

Initiate a conversation
Let’s leave the political debates at home. Keep the conversation at a small talk level. A simple remark about your current surroundings will suffice. For example, something as casual as commenting about the weather will open you up to conversation. What is asked isn’t important. What is most important is getting that line of communication started.

Get to know the person and allow them to get to know you
Once you are past the small talk, give them a quick glance into who you are. Begin exchanging basic information such as what you do for a living or where you are from. Make sure that the conversation is reciprocal. Share information about yourself but don’t forget that a conversation is a two way street. Allow yourself to get to know them also.

Give the person your undivided attention
Don’t allow outside distractions to deter you from getting acquainted with the object of your affection. Laugh at their jokes, comment on their stories and answer their questions. Being an active listener is way more important than being witty.

Now that you’re body language literate, use it
If the two of you seem to be hitting if off, take your flirting to the next level by breaking the touch barrier. Lightly touch their arm while you talk or hold their hand while leading them to another room or to a table. Subtle touching like this will not only show interest but will also let you know if they are comfortable letting you into their personal space.

To date or not to date… that is the question
Now that you have gotten to know them, it’s time to decide whether or not you’d like to see them again. Flirting is harmless fun and will at times, result in nothing. However, there are those occasions where you will meet someone that you find particularly interesting. In this case, a second meeting is necessary. Be confident and let them know that you are interested in seeing them again. If for some reason they do not feel the same way, don’t look at it as the end of the world. There will be plenty of other opportunities to meet that special someone.

xoxo
griselle